In a world full of “purity culture”, it can be hard to explore what you like in the bedroom with your significant other. The feelings of not doing too much, trying to look like a “good girl” or behave in a manner that suits society so called standards in a way where they shouldn’t be involved can take away from that special moment in time. Best way to combat that? By being open and honest with your partner about trying new things that could otherwise make you both happy and feel even more secure in your relationship.
Letting Vulnerability In
Being vulnerable can be a very hard and scary thing to do. It takes real courage to be open and honest with someone, even if that someone is just with yourself. The best way that I’ve figured out how to be vulnerable, is writing. Sometimes it’s easier to express how you feel on paper because you get to visually see what you’re thinking, make sense of how you feel, and figure out how to convey that to someone else. It allows you to potentially get your feelings met because you can see what you need or what is lacking and create a plan to actually get what you are looking for in a relationship and with yourself sexually.
What Makes You Spontaneous
Being spontaneous in the bedroom isn’t a one size fits all. It can be grand or it can be something simple as adding affection and softness into an otherwise chaotic space. You can tailor it to your specific needs and to your partners specific needs. It’s about creating an environment or atmosphere where you both are happy and satisfied, bringing you both closer together as a couple.
Spontaneity can be dark, alluring, sexy, flowy, chaotic, or otherwise something simple. Some of the best ways to really tap into your spontaneous energy is by going within, seeing and feeling what is it that your body is craving, what would you like to experience, what moment or moments would you like to look back on and be proud that you achieved for nothing more than the betterment of you and the person you love and care about.
As you go against the grain of societal norms, think about how happy you will feel knowing you get to add more pleasure into your life and the life of your partners, free of ridicule and judgement.
Safe Space
What is a safe space? It’s an environment crafted to your liking and or your significant others that no one can grab ahold of and take. It a world you piece together that makes you feel relaxed, safe, rejuvenated, and at peace. Creating a safe space is very important for monumental moments like being spontaneous in the bedroom, because it allows you be free.
Wild Side
Now that you have all the tools needed, tapping into your “wild side” is all about being free. It’s about basking in each second of pleasure without inhibition and judgment. It’s about feeling up the senses, creating a world full of pleasure undiscovered, and having someone to share the beauty of you with you in it.
Stay Wild!
Kaymarie 