What is Intimacy?
It’s an emotional, physical, or spiritual connection or relationship between yourself and or someone else. It’s validation and closeness all mixed into one, creating a safe space for you and or your significant other.
Intimacy is something that is learned and in most cases can be taught. It’s about creating a level of depth that ignites a certain vibe, a certain energy, that can bring you closer to wholeness with yourself or with someone else. So how do you find or create this level intimacy? The answer is vulnerability.
Naturally, people run from vulnerability when they’re afraid to let their guard down, are unsure of themselves or the person they’re trying to be intimate with, or maybe that person does not feel safe enough in their environment to let their guard down in a way that creates intimacy. And these things are okay, there’s no rush when trying to be intimate with yourself or someone else, it sometimes can be a very slow process.
How To Be Intimate
There are thousands of ways to be intimate with or without it being sexual. To name a few, there is closeness, sharing a meal or having a date night with oneself or each other. Writing in a journal, checking in on yourself about how you feel, what is your body telling you, what do you feel like you’re lacking or you’re needing right in this very moment? Dancing, this can be a form of releasing negative energy, embracing yourself or your partner, and creasing yourself in a magical way. Lastly, there are games you can play to get to know yourself better and explore without judgement what it is you need from yourself to create a better connection.
How To Increase Intimacy
Don’t be afraid to step outside of your comfort zone. You are your own Goddess, you can explore yourself however you like. Be gentle with yourself, don’t let life or yourself rush you.
To increase your intimacy, start by asking yourself questions. For example, when I learned to be more intimate with myself I would ask myself what makes me excited? What gets my body going or tingle? What turns me on? And what springs on a sense of contentment or completion? I started to ask myself these questions daily, with little things. How did I feel about that book I read? What made me crave more? What were things that I liked less? All of these questions was how my body was trying to convey to me what it needed and wanted and all I had to do was be gentle and listen. My body gave me all the answers I needed.
As much as people might not say it, intimacy is all about going with the flow. It’s about tuning into yourself when no one is around. And as the saying goes, “From your head to your toes, you are a spiritual being first, having a very human experience,” and aside from your heart and mind, your body is having its own experiences too. Embrace them, feel them, acknowledge them, your mind needs you to respond so your body can show you what it is you are missing. Let it guide you into pleasure and bliss you may have never known.
Stay Intimate!
Kaymarie 