For those that have come across a narcissist person, has known a narcissist person, or may have one as a family member. I’m sorry to you in advance the things you may have went through or had to endure to their selfishness and lack of consideration of you.
What Is A Narcissist?
A narcissist according to textbook is someone who lacks empathy, very manipulative, and can be very arrogant. They almost have like this God complex and consider others beneath them including family and friends (if they have any). They also tend to always think of themselves first without any consideration to another person. Some are highly intelligent which can have psychopathic tendencies.
What Are The Signs Of A Narcissist?
The signs of a narcissist can be pretty grand. But to list a few would be:
1. The need to feel in control, preferably over someone else.
2. They are easy to provoke and can sometimes be hot tempered.
3. They do not take criticism well or self-reflect.
4. They expect others to comply with their wishes and needs only.
5. They tend to be perfectionists.
6. They love to gaslight people especially in disagreements or arguments.
7. They can be extremely defensive and love to deflect.
8. And they tend to look for people who do not have good boundaries and take advantage of them for various reasons.
How Do I Get Away From A Narcissist?
From personal experience of ending a 5 years relationship with one in the past, getting rid of a narcissist out of your life can be extremely hard and burdening as they use many tactics to make you stay and keep you in the position you are in and entangled with them. Narcissists do not respond well to change, especially if they feel the grasp that they have over you was once strong and is now fading away.
One of the best and simplest ways to get rid of a narcissist out of your life is to ask for help. One of the first steps is recognizing that there is a problem, especially if you feel the narcissist in your life is detrimental to your wellbeing, the being of someone else, or is causing you harm, is admitting you need help and assistance. If you are unable to get immediate help, reach out to 911, assistance, or someone you can trust to stop a situation from escalating, this being more on the extreme side.
Narcissistic people can manipulate you back into a situation you do not want to be in, making it harder to leave, especially if you have children with this person. Be mindful of everyone involved and protect yourself or whom ever from their tactics. If you have a family member that’s narcissistic, it would be a great idea to keep as much distance between you two as possible, meaning keep conversations to a minimum, if you feel like their trying to manipulate you get someone to help and intervene, limit communication if possible, move away, change phone numbers, and get a professional opinion on how to lessen interactions with one.
How Do I Heal And Not Become A Narcissist?
Healing from being around a narcissist is not an easy thing to do especially if you yourself do not want to become one. It can be even harder to heal if the narcissist in your life is and was a parent or family member that you had to be around or someone that you had kids with. This can all play a major role in how long it takes to heal or how you would be able to heal. Narcissists are very good a scaring the people they “claim” to care about and love.
A great place to start the healing process from being around a narcissist is through counseling and or therapy. Your brain can become rewired from trauma and manipulation that was constant or it can change the outlook on how you see the world. Communication in therapy is key and can help you view certain key points that you may not have realized or overlooked due to being in the dynamic or relationship with a narcissist, this is helpful because it can help you with viewing the dynamic from a third person point of view.
Another great place is to write down notes. Make suggestions or tips based on what you remember when the narcissist you were in contact with would get angry or upset. And write down when they were trying to manipulate you. This is good approach so you do not come in contact with a new one in the future or sadly if you do, you know how to approach the situation and maneuver out of it.
Happy Healing With Love!
Kaymarie 