Having low self-esteem can affect you in so many ways like the type of people you date, jobs you’ll accept, places you will or won’t travel to, or things you’re willing to say. It can effect what you’re willing to tolerate in relationships and the kind of relationships you will have as well.
I know for me, as someone who struggled with real low self – esteem and a large point in time in my life, it definitely showed. Certain things I would say when I was around people might not have always been positive, I felt like I had to overcompensate for what I lacked, I felt misunderstood by others, I didn’t have strong boundaries and let people treat me any kind of what, and overall I was accepting far less than what I actually deserved. I was unhappy with me but didn’t know how to improve that at the time, but I learned.
I learned that, no one was going to save me I had to save myself. I started asking myself questions to truly get to the root cause of my low self-esteem like why did I feel I deserved to be treated that way? Why do I feel the need to over compensate for others when they wouldn’t do the same for me? Why was I neglecting my own wants and needs? Why was I making those people the star in my life when I wasn’t one in theirs? And bit by bit, I started unraveling the parts of myself that were not trying. Realizing I was scared of abandonment and loneliness and I was choosing these things and people instead of me.
It was effecting me spiritually, mentally, emotionally, and sexually. I was forgetting my own satisfaction and pleasure not realizing they are equally just as important if not more. So I stopped. Little by little I worked through those hard questions and started putting me first. Saying no in places I normally would have said yes, walking away when I didn’t need to stay, making sure my pleasure and satisfaction was always included, checking in with myself to see if I was satisfied or craved more and asked for it. I started noticing over time my confidence grew, I felt like I was regaining my personal power back and changed or walked away from the people, places, and things that truly never made me happy and that I was outgrowing. I started to reshape my perspective and see what I was settling for but what I would no longer take. And although my confidence currently is not where I want it to be just yet, it has changed, and so will yours.
Through growth and learning to be more honest with yourself, you can tap into either what you’re doing wrong and what doesn’t feel right and change it so you can tap into your own personal power and confidence sensually, sexually, and spiritually to name a few to not only help you heal and grow but to be a better version of you.
Have the Self-Esteem you always dreamed!
Kaymarie 